Self-love can be considered self-appreciation that grows from actions that support your physical, psychological, and spiritual well-being. Contrary to popular belief, self-love is not an “all about me” or egocentric philosophy. It is about accepting yourself even when you think you’re flawed in some way. It’s knowing your boundaries and being able to say “no” even at the risk of disappointing someone else. It’s about giving yourself the kindness and generosity you bestow upon others. When you are overly critical of your looks, decisions, or lifestyle, you rob yourself of self-love.
Self Love in Relationships
The degree of health in a relationship hinges on the amount of self-love each person brings into it. Self-love means being whole before you enter a relationship. When one or both people do not have self-love, the relationship becomes unbalanced. For example, picture a table that’s missing a leg. It doesn’t have what it needs to make it steady. It becomes dependent on a wall always being there to hold it up. If it is moved away from the wall, it collapses. Like the table, your relationship will collapse if you don’t love yourself.
When you value yourself, you can enter a relationship with security and trust. You won’t depend on another person’s acceptance of you and pressure your partner to meet your needs. You won’t obsess over the relationship, knowing that you will be okay with or without it. You won’t be needy or demanding which undermines a healthy union. With healthy self-love, you bring your authentic self to the relationship which creates a bond in which you feel empowered and secure. If a relationship or situation endangers your values or the way you feel about yourself, you love yourself enough to let it go
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Next Steps
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