How to Set Boundaries with Your Inner Critic
Your inner critic is like an overzealous roommate who thinks it’s their job to narrate your every move. Sometimes it whispers doubts. Sometimes it shouts judgments. And too often, it acts as if it gets the final say.
But here’s the truth: you are allowed to set boundaries with your inner critic. Boundaries don’t silence it completely—it’s a part of you, after all. But boundaries remind it of its proper place.
Here are three examples of how to dismiss your inner critic.
Example One:
Imagine sitting at your desk, staring at a half-written project. Instead of spiraling into shame, you pause, breathe, and reframe the critic’s jab into motivation: “Yes, I’ve stopped halfway before. But I’ve also finished many things I’m proud of. I can keep going.”
Example Two:
You’re painting, and halfway through the canvas, the voice sneers, “What’s the point?” Instead of dropping your brush, you smile and whisper: “Not now. Let me finish my colors. We can talk later.” And you keep painting.
Example Three:
When you see the job posting, the critic’s warning flares. Instead of shrinking, you gently thank it for its concern, then open the application and begin.
Think of yourself as the wise leader of your inner world. The critic can have a seat at the table, but it doesn’t run the meeting. When you set boundaries with your inner critic, you create space for other voices to emerge—your creativity, your intuition, and your self-compassion. And those voices are what help you grow, connect, and thrive.
✨ Try this today: the next time your inner critic pipes up, pause and respond with a boundary. Firm but kind. Then notice how much freer you feel.
If you need help quieting your inner critic, I can assist you by uncovering the patterns holding you back, creating gentle yet firm boundaries, and helping you step into confidence, clarity, and self-trust. Schedule your session with me by email at admin@buildlovingrelationships.com or text at 512-922-4822. I look forward to talking to you!
