Breaking Free from the“If Only” Trap
Ever catch yourself thinking those ‘if only’ thoughts? If only he’d call… if only she understood me… if only they’d change. They feel so familiar, right? But underneath, those wishes often come from a place of codependency. “If only” thoughts usually mask the voice of codependency, which is the reliance on another person for our happiness.
They sound like: If only he would call… if only she understood me… if only they’d change. These little whispers make you believe that your happiness, peace, and sense of worth depend on someone else’s actions. But here’s the truth—”if only” is not a roadmap to love, it’s a detour into waiting and wishing.
The moment you catch yourself in an “if only,” you have a choice: keep circling the same loop, or turn inward and ask, What can I give myself right now? What is within my power today? That shift is where freedom begins. When you release others from carrying the weight of your well-being, you reclaim your strength, clarity, and confidence.
Love doesn’t bloom from “if only.” It blooms from I am complete.
Are you ready to end your “if-only” thinking and increase your enjoyment of life? Book a coaching session with me today! truelovecoach@gmail.com text me at 512-922-4822. Or use the contact sheet below.
